I haven’t changed my phone wallpaper in almost two years.
My dad captured this moment only a couple of days before Tori went to Heaven and it’s the last non-selfie photo I have of me and her together. I have had no desire to change it because it’s comforting to me. I like that it’s always there, easy to find, and that it represents the deep trust she had in me.
I like that it’s the same photo day after day.
This pregnancy has been both similar and different to my pregnancy with Tori. In many ways, though it was still relatively easy, hers was more complicated.
Both pregnancies were/are easy in regards to no morning sickness, little discomfort, no swelling, etc. I do not take it for granted that my body seems to like pregnancy!
But there are some major differences:
- I had gestational diabetes.
- I had excess amniotic fluid (because of the GD).
- I gained over 30 pounds.
- My hips caused me pain constantly.
- She would sleep through non-stress tests, triggering multiple ultrasounds each week.
- I tried to deliver her naturally and ended up having an unplanned c-section.
When we found out that we were having identical twins (mono/di), we immediately assumed that we were in for a rough ride.
And, thus far, we’ve been completely wrong.
- I passed my glucose test!
- My fluid levels are normal.
- I have only gained 20 pounds.
- My hips only hurt while trying to sleep.
- We will see about the non-stress tests, which start at 32 weeks 😉
- Even though I have ultrasounds every other week, everything is going as smoothly as possible! No complications; good, steady growth; very active; healthy boys.
- This c-section is scheduled, and I am happy about it this time!
I had prayed that God would let us have the easy road this time, and while we’re not in the clear until they are born, so far He has blessed us with a normal pregnancy, and we are beyond grateful. I needed this.
(25 weeks and 29 weeks)
We’ve begun to realize that everything about what’s going to happen in April is completely different than with Tori.
- Boys, not a girl
- Two, not one
- No Krabbe, no genetic issues
And we need these differences, too.
Because it will be completely different, there will be less temptation to compare them to Tori. She has her place in our hearts and they will have theirs. ❤️
We have no reason to fear the future with the twins and yet we are going to be waiting…for the NBS results, for the 5/6 month mark (when Tori’s symptoms surfaced), for them to surpass her life of 19 months and 27 days. I think until we hit that mark we will wonder if the genetic testing was wrong, if the Newborn Screening was wrong, if things are going to be the same as they were with Tori.
The boys are going to learn to crawl, talk, walk, run, play…things we can’t even imagine because Tori was robbed of those opportunities. I can’t wait (and yet I can) until they are mobile and able to get away from us – something Tori never could.
Usually the status quo brings comfort; in this case, the differences are refreshing. And we need them.
I wonder what I will do and how I will feel when the boys are here in regards to my phone wallpaper. I imagine that will be an emotional moment, even if the new photo incorporates Tori in some way, because it will be a reminder that she is in Heaven and not here with her brothers.
But, as we move forward in our new adventure, we know that things are going to change, that change isn’t bad; that things are going to be new and wonderful, even if bittersweet, and we will learn to embrace the change and the joy that these precious boys will bring to our lives.
And we can’t wait. ❤️