Today I cleaned my kitchen.
It took me several hours as I had to do tasks in short stints as the boys allowed, but it looks SO much better, and I feel better about it.
Why am I telling you this? There’s a reason. I’ve learned something recently that I think may help you, as well.
Bottom line: I don’t love housekeeping. My lack of love for it has led me to justify being lazy about it. Add in the excuse of twins, and a loving husband who will come home from work and do whatever needs to be done, and I easily justify and make excuses for not cleaning or tidying my house very often.
I don’t like cleaning, but I also don’t like when my house is messy. So I have had to really think about what motivates me, as a clean house is proving to NOT be motivation in and of itself.
We recently sat down and made priorities for our family, and one of the top three is family time. When I began to evaluate my role as an at home wife and mother with our new priorities in mind, it became clear that I need to use my family as my motivation for the tasks I don’t feel like doing.
When I allow love for my husband and children to be the motivator, I can find joy in the mundane.
My husband works HARD to provide for our family. He is gone for 8-9 hours per day, time he would rather be with his family; yet, he faithfully goes to work so that we can afford to live.
He works hard and deserves to be able to enjoy his children when he comes home instead of doing dishes.
(Note that I didn’t say he should get to just come home and lounge – if he only wanted to do that, I’d find it MUCH harder to want to do these things! But because he loves to serve his family, I want to make sure there’s little for him to do while he’s home.)
When he comes home to a clean (ish) house, he can relax and enjoy our boys. And that will bring joy to my heart as I love seeing him as a father (and it gives me a little break 😉).
As the boys become more mobile, that will be motivation for keeping the floors clean so that they have a clean space in which to crawl and play.
See what I mean?
Chores by themselves are NOT motivating to me at all. Neither is obligation. But knowing that what I am doing is serving and blessing those I love the most makes me do these tasks with joy (most of the time).
Make priorities to guide your family, and use them as your motivation. Having family priorities is truly transforming our home life and I am SO excited about how it will shape us and our future in years to come!
If your motivation for something is negative – or non-existent – try to find something good and positive that can be a motivation. Something outside of yourself.
“For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters.
But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature.
Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love.”
– Galatians 5:13 (NLT)
Serving others brings such joy (and it’s biblical), so let that be your motivation for the mundane.
“Love each other with genuine affection,
and take delight in honoring each other.”
– Romans 12:10 (NLT)